There are a lot of times when we get out of the way to say things that weren't the truth for different reasons. And there might not be a negative motive, but just for the sake of the person or the relationship or maybe sometimes for our own self. We try to get out of whirlpools, to not fall into uncomfortable circumstances, to try not to hurt a person and mostly to not lose them, and the weirdest of all - to make an impression. And sometimes we do succeed in the effort. But the question is for how long would that work? How long do you think a lie could actually work? You don't want to say yes to something you know you will regret later, but you still do, to save what you treasure.
For the people who know the trick, it is quite easy to do something like that. It is the easier path to get somewhere, the road that is common in a world like ours.
But as easy as it is, it is a short one with a dead end. No matter how much you make up things, speak up the false notations, try to get rid of the actuality, it's not going to last. And even though you won your race on that basis, you actually lose. No matter how much attractive it is, it is not the appropriate choice!
Honesty is and always will be the fat kinder alternative! It is its own defense. It is a sign of moral courage. Though it's tapered edges can cause a lot of damage even to the most firm of hearts. There is no easy way to pad it with softness. Many a times it's severity brings a lot of things at stake. And that is why You get tempted to take the easier road, and maybe do a favor to the other person and yourself. You feel scared of dealing with the trauma. For example, the bitter reality of not loving a person who loves you is quite an uncomfortable situation. You do not want to blow off the person because he is a good friend so you choose the other gentler option of pulling the thread of words you should have not said. We do everything for our friends, and this is yet another thing you do to keep the friendship alive, not thinking about how long that could possibly work! For the moment it heals everything, and you feel you can keep the trail going for as long as it could go.
But if you think of it, it is still better to get it over with, than getting up a ladder of lies that gets closer to the dreaded end every time you pull off a lie. And trust me, the intensity keeps on increasing. You start with a small tiny step, and do not even realize when you start taking big laps. It becomes your normal speech. And the guilt never leaves your system.
It all depends on whether you feed the good or the evil inside you. If you develop a habit of speaking the truth, it comes naturally in your speech. You do not have to force it. Yes, you will have to deal with a lot of nonsense absurd reality issues. As they say, it ain't easy to walk the road of truthfulness with the sharp angles. It is painful a lot of times, but always quick. It will never be easy. The words sometimes carve a hollow inside people, and tears you apart too. Sometimes you know it is harsh, but you also know that stating the falsity would be harsher.
Relationships need trust, and you cannot build trust if you cannot even build a true statement. In the long run you will realize it always was the right alternative, the fat kinder alternative!
For the people who know the trick, it is quite easy to do something like that. It is the easier path to get somewhere, the road that is common in a world like ours.
But as easy as it is, it is a short one with a dead end. No matter how much you make up things, speak up the false notations, try to get rid of the actuality, it's not going to last. And even though you won your race on that basis, you actually lose. No matter how much attractive it is, it is not the appropriate choice!
Honesty is and always will be the fat kinder alternative! It is its own defense. It is a sign of moral courage. Though it's tapered edges can cause a lot of damage even to the most firm of hearts. There is no easy way to pad it with softness. Many a times it's severity brings a lot of things at stake. And that is why You get tempted to take the easier road, and maybe do a favor to the other person and yourself. You feel scared of dealing with the trauma. For example, the bitter reality of not loving a person who loves you is quite an uncomfortable situation. You do not want to blow off the person because he is a good friend so you choose the other gentler option of pulling the thread of words you should have not said. We do everything for our friends, and this is yet another thing you do to keep the friendship alive, not thinking about how long that could possibly work! For the moment it heals everything, and you feel you can keep the trail going for as long as it could go.
But if you think of it, it is still better to get it over with, than getting up a ladder of lies that gets closer to the dreaded end every time you pull off a lie. And trust me, the intensity keeps on increasing. You start with a small tiny step, and do not even realize when you start taking big laps. It becomes your normal speech. And the guilt never leaves your system.
It all depends on whether you feed the good or the evil inside you. If you develop a habit of speaking the truth, it comes naturally in your speech. You do not have to force it. Yes, you will have to deal with a lot of nonsense absurd reality issues. As they say, it ain't easy to walk the road of truthfulness with the sharp angles. It is painful a lot of times, but always quick. It will never be easy. The words sometimes carve a hollow inside people, and tears you apart too. Sometimes you know it is harsh, but you also know that stating the falsity would be harsher.
Relationships need trust, and you cannot build trust if you cannot even build a true statement. In the long run you will realize it always was the right alternative, the fat kinder alternative!
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