The Fat Kinder Alternative!

There are a lot of times when we get out of the way to say things that weren't the truth for different reasons. And there might not be a negative motive, but just for the sake of the person or the relationship or maybe sometimes for our own self. We try to get out of whirlpools, to not fall into uncomfortable circumstances, to try not to hurt a person and mostly to not lose them, and the weirdest of all - to make an impression. And sometimes we do succeed in the effort. But the question is for how long would that work? How long do you think a lie could actually work? You don't want to say yes to something you know you will regret later, but you still do, to save what you treasure.

For the people who know the trick, it is quite easy to do something like that. It is the easier path to get somewhere, the road that is common in a world like ours.
But as easy as it is, it is a short one with a dead end. No matter how much you make up things, speak up the false notations, try to get rid of the actuality, it's not going to last. And even though you won your race on that basis, you actually lose. No matter how much attractive it is, it is not the appropriate choice!

Honesty is and always will be the fat kinder alternative! It is its own defense. It is a sign of moral courage. Though it's tapered edges can cause a lot of damage even to the most firm of hearts. There is no easy way to pad it with softness. Many a times it's severity brings a lot of things at stake. And that is why You get tempted to take the easier road, and maybe do a favor to the other person and yourself. You feel scared of dealing with the trauma. For example, the bitter reality of not loving a person who loves you is quite an uncomfortable situation. You do not want to blow off the person because he is a good friend so you choose the other gentler option of pulling the thread of words you should have not said. We do everything for our friends, and this is yet another thing you do to keep the friendship alive, not thinking about how long that could possibly work! For the moment it heals everything, and you feel you can keep the trail going for as long as it could go.

But if you think of it, it is still better to get it over with, than getting up a ladder of lies that gets closer to the dreaded end every time you pull off a lie. And trust me, the intensity keeps on increasing. You start with a small tiny step, and do not even realize when you start taking big laps. It becomes your normal speech. And the guilt never leaves your system.

It all depends on whether you feed the good or the evil inside you. If you develop a habit of speaking the truth, it comes naturally in your speech. You do not have to force it. Yes, you will have to deal with a lot of nonsense absurd reality issues. As they say, it ain't easy to walk the road of truthfulness with the sharp angles. It is painful a lot of times, but always quick. It will never be easy. The words sometimes carve a hollow inside people, and tears you apart too. Sometimes you know it is harsh, but you also know that stating the falsity would be harsher.
Relationships need trust, and you cannot build trust if you cannot even build a true statement. In the long run you will realize it always was the right alternative, the fat kinder alternative!

The Blissful Journey

Life sure is carefree at threshold, but it gets tougher and challenging down the road. The path which was supposed to be the magic beanstalk in the clouds doesn't look that convincing as it did back then. You realize you get to the top for the cloud view for a little while everytime you get a high in life, get excited about it and then it also hits you that this wasn't it. There's more to the story. There always is. As soon as you reach a specific goal you get the feeling that this was just a part of the whole big fat story that your life is. And there's also a different level to it, and yes now you want to reach that level. We are never satisfied, aren't we?

There are different directions to what people say about being satisfied with what you get in life. 'Be satisfied and you will be happy', or 'never be satisfied, always crave more, and that's how you reach heights; because if you are satisfied you will not want more, and if you don't want more you aren't going to get it'. And the truth is, somewhere we always want more. It's complicated. Everything that we imagined when we were little gets faded and a totally different approach to life gets in when you are in your twenties. You realize you are no longer that person you used to be in your teens, you can be super strong in things you never thought you would face, you get more confident and also need stress-busters, you handle multitasking like a piece of cake and that you are amazing in your own weird way. You get tougher with time, and the shield gets stronger and bigger. You miss the carelessness, but at the same time you are proud of yourself for the amount of great efforts you put in and the way you now accord with things. There is so much to deal with every single day. You fall down and you get right back up, on your feet, ready to turn it around; because you know nothing is worse than giving up and that it is always

worth a try. ALWAYS! If you really want something with all your heart, you will always find a way, and most of the times it will happen. The stronger the dedication, the higher the possibility of gaining even the indefinite.

Life is incredible the way it is. The highs and lows keep us down to the ground, helps us understand ourselves and others better and always gets us an insight of how awesome our journey is. And that no matter how much we thank God for it, its always deficient. You get the lows so that you value the ups. Somewhere we all know we will always get through the tunnel and get to the brighter side if we believe in it. We attract the light into our lives, and we know it will stay as long as we make efforts to keep it. All we need to do is to be ourselves, follow our dreams, understand that we solely are responsible for whatever happens in our lives, do what makes us happy and never let the important people go. We do walk the path alone, but with support of the wonderful people in our lives it always gets better and happier. They always bring out the good in us and drive us towards the best of the world.

Do not let the craziness die, never ever forget to smile, say what you feel, always believe, show love and just be your own wacky self! Because If you know how to live, life is pretty amazing. :)